“Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.” (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
Find someone, anyone. Actually, it’s something God has to find for you. It is of utmost importance that we surround ourselves with people who are going to build us up and help us in our walk. Even as we in turn help them. Our load is made lighter by friends who are willing to tell us what they think, to pray for us and to show us our blind spots. True depth perception requires both eyes, after all, and only God sees everything.
As an aside, “One-Eyed” Odin, of Norse myth had two ravens—Huginn and Muninn—who, by day, flew to and fro throughout the world only to return to Valhalla at night and perch on his shoulder as he sat down to dinner. They informed him of the day’s events, literally acting as his eyes and ears. Perhaps they’re the ravens spoken of in Proverbs? (30:17) “The eye that mocketh at his father, and despiseth his mother, the ravens of the valley shall pick it out.”
There are things that God wants to do in your life that require the help of like-minded individuals. Really, the more the better, but one is all it takes to shake things up. Have you ever felt that? You go somewhere, anywhere with your best friend and you know you have a compatriot in the world at large. Even when you’re apart, you feel it. A close friend is invaluable. Do whatever you need to ensure that the friendship stays afloat.
“Shared joy is double joy. Shared sorrow is half a sorrow.” Swedish proverb
It’s true. The keenness of insight that God gives your friend will transform your sorrows into joys and expand on the enjoyment of life. Make sure you pray for them and treat them the same.
A true friend will reflect back to you who you really are. I think we know this subconciously but it deserves to be brought to the surface. I’d wager to say that it’s one of the main reasons that we enjoy their presence so much. Sure we love them, we love them with all of our heart—the part that’s reserved for “friend”, if that makes sense. But as we are always on the inside looking out, that insight, that “shared vision”, that perspective is crucial for our comportment in the world—and rare, I might add. Ask God to send you a friend. And until He does, revel in the friendship and companionship of Jesus. He is that “friend that sticketh closer than a brother.” (Proverbs 18:24)
“Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.” (Ecclesiastes 4:11-12, emphasis mine)
When Jesus is at the center of your friendship, then it can flourish as it was intended. And as one grows in life, He’ll be the one to provide everything that the true friend, awesome though they may be, might be unable to give. Because as close as you might become with the person that God has introduced to you, you’ll never outgrow the need for the companionship of the Lord. It’s the natural order of things. And don’t be sad or rankled when your friend doesn’t understand you—because it’s bound to happen at some time or another, they’re growing with you. Even if there comes a time where you need to part ways, guess what? You still have God—so do they. All the more reason to look forward to Heaven. It’s a place where we can explore and play outside forever…
“Henceforth I call you not servants; for the servant knoweth not what his lord doeth: but I have called you friends; for all things that I have heard of my Father I have made known unto you.” (John 15:15)
God bless you guys.